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MATTOT-TRIBES

23 JULY 2011

Numbers 30:2-32

Jeremiah 1:1-2:3

Philippians 3:12-16

 

A summary of this week’s Torah portion begins with Moses speaking about the regulations regarding vows and oaths, including cancellation of vows and oaths by either husbands or fathers.  GOD also tells Moses to take vengeance upon the Midianites, including the death of Balaam.  The spoils of war were taken from the Midianites and divided by the tribes.  The intentions of the tribes of Rueben, Gad and half-tribe of Manasseh were to inherit the west side of the Jordan River, called Transjordan.

According to Webster’s Dictionary, vows are solemn promises that are made especially to GOD, such as a promise of love and fidelity as in marriage.  The sages taught that there are two types of vows.  One is when someone declares that an object(s) is forbidden.  The other type is that which a person obligates himself to do something (Nazirite vow).

Messiah Yeshua taught us not to make vows or take oaths unless we really mean the words (Matthew 5:33).  Anything beyond the words, “Yes,” or “No,” come from the evil adversary.

There is power in words.  GOD takes promises and oaths seriously and so should we (Psalm 50:14; Eccles 7:18-25).  When we promise to do something we should complete that promise.  It is better not to say or give a promise unless we really mean it.  Willing to do something and doing it are two different things (Romans 7:18-25).

As husbands and fathers we need to understand that we have been given authority to be heads of our households.  This means that we must take a stand for our family.  If we feel something is not good for our family or our children, we must say so.  We must not put the power of silence upon ourselves.  We must sense coming disaster and speak out.  Guilt will fall upon us for our silence and for allowing consequences to come upon our family.

Our families need to be protected by our leadership.  If someone in our family makes a vow or promise, it must be fulfilled, and we need to help to fulfill that.  If, however, after prayerful consideration, the vow or promise is thought to be hurtful to our family member, it is our obligation to step in to help them “back out” of that promise.  For instance, a child making an inappropriate promise that cannot/should not be fulfilled, and after consultation with the parents, may say, “Sorry, my parents say I cannot because…”

Whatever happens in life, GOD has not given us a spirit of fear, but power, a sound mind and authority to be the leaders of our households.

Shavua Tov

Rabbi Z.


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