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And He went out

Torah: Genesis 28:10-32:3

HafTorah Hosea 12:12-14:10

Brit Chadesha John 1:43-51

As we progress with the history of Jacob, he is now heading up to Charan, to uncle Laban's home. Here he is to meet his B’shert (soul mate). Jacob stays in uncle Laban's home for twenty years after he was fooled to marry Leah first, then his beloved Rachel.

To Jacob were born 12 sons and one girl (Dinah). The boys are Reuben, Shimon, Levi, Judah, Issachar, Zebulun, Dan, Naphtali, Gad, Asher, Joseph, and Benjamin on the way to Bethlehem.

Jacob's exile from The Promised land ends at the end of twenty years and he leaves for home after making a peace pact with uncle Laban.

This week I felt that I need to write about seeking your soul mate for life. In Genesis Chapter 29 verse 16; it is stated that Laban had two daughters; one named Leah, and the other Rachel. Here it tells of how Jacob fell in love with Rachel and asked for her hand in marriage from her father, his uncle Laban.

Though we learn that Laban is a cheat and a scoundrel, I am writing on how one should go about seeking a spouse. Biblical times involved more parental arranging for marriage. Today customs are more the decision of young adults. For those seeking G-d's choice for their future mate the scriptures tell us that we need to yield to G-d's will.

Psalm 37:3-4 states that we need to trust G-d, do good, dwell in the land and enjoy His safety. Delight in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart. Also you should seek advice of your parents. The book of Proverbs chapter 6:20-25 tells us to keep our father's commands and not forsake your mother's teaching; for they will guide you; watch you; and speak to you.

Also as you consider who is to be your soul mate; consider 2Corinthians 6:14; to not be unequally yoked. Do not look thru lustful eyes. Look for someone who loves G-d; sets an example for others to follow after G-d and not after darkness (no light in their life). Keep yourself pure avoiding any immoralities and be in control of your body and mind (1Theselonians 4:3-4).

God bless this reading and His will for you.

SHAVUA TOV

Rabbi Z

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